THE MEMORY FILE - PART 3

THE MEMORY FILES: Part 3

 

Terror Of Childhood Memories

And Their Later Consequences

 

DEALING WITH YOUR “ BAD” MEMORIES

 

They Can Affect Your Adult Life—For Good Or For Bad

 

CHILDHOOD REMEMBERED! THE FORMATIVE YEARS!

 

Many adults say, “When I was a kid my life was really bad. I mean really bad.” That lament could have come from tens of thousands of adults, male and female. Perhaps you are one of them. Of course really bad can mean many things. Being constantly screamed at by parents can be as bad being constantly beaten by parents. The affects upon the child can be the same; he or she grows up angry, doing to their children what their parents did to them. It can be an unending cycle unless the problem is recognized and dealt with.

 

Those bad childhood memories affects ones ability to get a job or to hold on to the job once gotten And that’s a fact. Marriage and Friendships suffer. Medical problems crop up. Life expectancy is shortened. And that too is a fact.

                       

It’s he and she but... does not have to be.


It’s Fixable! 

YOU DON’T NEED A PSYCHIATRIST 

I call it... 

THE CHILDHOOD MEMORY TRAP

 

Trying To Forget Doesn’t Work. Those bad, childhood memories keep popping up. Can they be ignored? – No – What to do?

 

For some, childhood was terrible. There can be a hundred reasons why. For some the causes were worse than others. Whatever they were, they left the victims emotionally scarred affecting not only their childhood but also their adult life, and still do. Future failure or success in adult life can, often, be attributed to the life led as a child. What do you remember?


 MEMORIES OF CHILDHOOD ABUSE AFFECT ADULT LIFE


Parents who abuse their children were very often, abused by their parents when they were children. Where does that lead? First, what do we mean by abuse? Abuse takes many forms, physical, mental or generally both.

 

 

UNLOVED

 

For many there were no hugs and kisses from their parents growing up.  Embarrassed? Don’t be. Is that abuse? That depends upon your point of view.  I believe it is a form of abuse. What are some of your memories?



“A CHILD SHOULD BE SEEN BUT NOT HEARD”

REALLY? 

Did you remember ever hearing that one? Worse still, do you remember being victimized by it? “Shut up!” Does that ring familiar? Some times that might have been accompanied by an expletive. So, where does that leave you as an adult and a parent? Unless you can remember how you felt as a child you will, most likely, be unable to get in touch with your true feelings as an adult.

 

Of course nothing is absolute. However, if you ignore the possibility that your anger and unhappiness stems from long forgotten, unhappy childhood memories, you will do yourself a great disservice.

 

“I’VE GOT PLENTY OF NOTHING”

(From George Gershwin’s Porgy and Bess)

 

Does that apply to you? It isn’t just about money. The answers are in your memory bank. My father used a strap on me just once when I was six years old and I never forgot it. The negative effects lasted long into my adult life. The memory was filed and buried deep within my memory bank. Retrieving it was a revelation, permitting me to deal with my unexplained bursts of anger.

 

On the other hand, none of this may apply to you, if so, congratulations.

 

Bob Flicker

 

Coming soon:

 

THE MEMORY & RECALL HANDBOOK

 (A handy guide to help you remember.)

 

See: THE MEMORY FILE: PART 1 & PART 2

Remembering Can Be Easy—If You Know How

 

Coming next:

 

THE MEMORY FILE: PART 4 

Just Plain Forgetting... That Can Be Fixed

REMEBERING IS THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING

 

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